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Independence from Old Habits

Jul 5, 2024 | Resource Blog

Independence Day is a day filled with celebrating our freedom with barbecue, fireworks, and time in the
sun. We don’t often think about our independence on the Fourth of July other than in the patriotic way.
I think there are a lot of things we all could use freedom from. We hold onto old habits and beliefs
simply because they are how we have always done them.

What would life be like if you allowed yourself independence from even one of these? What if you let go of worrying about others opinion of you? How would your behavior change if you only worried about what you want to do, how you feel, and what you think you look good in? Would you get the ice cream cone with your kids instead of worrying about how you look in a swimsuit?


So, in honor of Independence Day I am making a list of things to consider being independent of. Join me
in declaring your independence from one (or all) of these things as the fireworks explode. Imagine that
all the stress and chaos of life is exploding in bright designs leaving room for growth and change. So,
what are you declaring your independence from?

  • Unhealthy relationships
  • Trying to meet unrealistic expectations
  • Comparing myself to others
  • Social media making me feel like I am not doing or being enough
  • Not loving the body I have
  • Eating my feelings
  • Not saying what I need to say
  • Blaming my past for my present
  • Worrying about the future
  • Fear
  • Spending time with people that don’t make me a better person
  • Excuses for not taking care of my health
  • Watching TV instead of engaging in meaningful activities
  • Eating out
  • Making excuses
  • Putting things off that I can do today
  • Societies expectations for what a “good girl” does
  • Letting my schedule keep me from having spontaneous moments
  • Choosing to do the daily chores rather than having fun with my kids
  • Feeling guilty
  • Past negative experiences
  • Being held back by “what ifs”
  • Worrying about looking clumsy when I move my body
  • Perfection
  • Wearing uncomfortable clothes
  • Not having people over since the house isn’t perfectly clean


If you struggle finding freedom from the beliefs or habits that keep you from fully enjoying your life
reach out to us. Whether you want to work on solving a specific problem in our solution-focused Single
Sessions or address multiple things with a therapist in therapy we are happy to help.

Beth Orns, owner and licensed therapist at Better Together Mental Health.
Rachel Sabulsky is a therapist at Better Together Mental Health.
Anna Cox, licensed therapist in Columbia, Missouri.

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